How To Set Healthy Mental Boundaries & Why You Should

As an introvert, I had learned how to set healthy boundaries in a way that honoured and protected my mental health and stress levels. Once I mastered that, I discovered the next level-

mental boundaries.

These are the personal boundaries we have to set for ourselves against ourselves. Trust me though, these are life-giving boundaries. Once in place, you’ll understand how much freedom they give you.

Never before in the history of humanity have we had so much access to each other. We can look into the lives of someone else with the tap of a finger.  It is all too easy to become wrapped up in comparison, judgement, distraction, self-pity and self-doubt.

It can send you into a downward spiral if you’re not careful. Your mental health matters, and it starts with the boundaries you give yourself and being able to recognize when you need to implement them.

You may have never been taught this before! It’s not anyone’s fault; our parents and grandparents didn’t have the access to technology like we do. So here, it can look like this:

1. Unfollow anyone who seems to trigger angry or self-pity feelings. We’ve all had that one person that we “love to hate” but that energy is so low-vibration if I may use that term. It just means that it’s draining, not energizing. You might even want to take it a step further and think about why that person is causing such a reaction in you. Do they remind you of someone from your childhood? Do they represent something you wish you could have but don’t? Chances are, it’s not about them really, and that’s okay.  Once you feel in a better headspace, you can follow them again if you enjoy their content.

2. Comparison is the thief of joy.

3. Conscious language. This isn’t about being positive all the time or brushing away your feelings! It’s just about being aware of your reactions to things. Like if your kids are testing your patience and you say, “I’m about to lose it,” you probably will. But if you catch yourself and can instead say, “They’re just learning. I can have patience for this teachable moment,” you most likely will!

4. Practicing gratitude. It’s a reality check. This is my favourite practice for putting things into perspective.

5. Limit your phone time. I give myself “work hours” for social media and put away my phone at 8 pm and don’t pick it up again until 8 am. It took a little while to detox the FOMO, but now I really enjoy that window of phone-free time! I enjoy my own life SO much more.

6. Stop thinking about what other people will think if you. This one can take some more time to unlearn because it’s become such a habit, but we can unlearn bad habits.

I’d love to hear which of these you want to be more intentional with! Learning how to set these healthy boundaries with yourself is the first step on your way to a more balanced life.

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